Thanksgiving

So Thanksgiving is one of my very favorite holidays, and it seems like it gets skipped over a lot of the time. I hate when Christmas music is playing before Thanksgiving, it seems like we are turning into ungrateful people and this is a much needed holiday in this day in age.

I feel like lately I have been mostly focusing on the negative in my life so this post is something I really needed to do because there really is a lot I am thankful for.
I am thankful for Mike and our family, and how hard he works to support us.
I amt thankful for all my kids even though we have had a rough time of it lately I wouldn't trade any of them in. I am thankful for Winter and all the help she gives me. Sometimes it feels like she is co-parenting with me and although I appreciate it I know I don't tell her enough. I am thankful forZarley, her stubbornness and her quirky personality. Although right now it feels like her stubbornness is going to be the death of me some days I am hoping it will take her far in life. She has real determination that could take her wherever she wants to go. I am thankful for Owen because he is just sweet and mellow and doesn't rock the boat. He is also funny. I am thankful for Xavier because he is my baby and such a cute little baby. He knows what he wants and docent seem like he is going to be one to settle for anything less.
I am very thankful for my in-laws they are always taking my kids to do new and fun things. Like Disney on Ice or trans Siberian orchestra, or Wheeler farm for whatever holiday thing they have going on. They take my kids everywhere and give them so many opportunities they wouldn't otherwise have. Not to mention all they have and continue to do for Mike and myself.
I am very thankful for my parents and the determination to get through things that they have shown me, they have proven that two people can get through any trial or tribulation if they really want to. I am so glad for the memories and traditions that they gave us growing up they have set a firm foundation for all of us on how we think holidays should go that's for sure.
I am thankful for the country we live in and the freedoms we enjoy and for all the military men and women who put their lives on the line for us to keep those freedoms.
I really do love Thanksgiving and all that it should mean and hope that everyone has a good holiday and remembers all that we have to be thankful for.

The Fabulous life of me cont...

Just some random pictures from times the kids got there hands on the camera.

Zarley and Owens self portrait

Zar taking a pictue of Xavier

I am very happy to report that we have been having a easier time of it lately,(knocking on wood right now).I'm not sure if it's a phase or the I-pod thing at night working or a mixture of it all. Don't get me wrong life isn't all birthdays and bbq's around here but its tolerable I'm not ready to hop in my car ALONE and drive away. We have had a few melt downs and some naughty words but everything is mellowing out a bit. Ahh I feel I can breath for a minute.

I am so proud of Winter right now, she set a goal to earn $250.00 by the 28th and she only had about 2 1/2 weeks to do it and she did it. Thanks to her Grandma Sharon and her Grandad who gave her some jobs to do and also paid her handsomely to do them. She is also proud of herself for accomplishing this and that is nice to see. She also has put her heart and sole into dance this year and has been working really hard, I can tell she is tired, but she doesn't give up and that also makes me very proud. Now if I could just get her to clean her room.
Owen Has been great lately although he seems to be crying this loud screaming whine a lot more and it is super annoying. But for the most part seems to always be the mellow one who doesn't upset things to much.

Xavier, still my hip growth that makes monkey signs, oh so annoying. But he is stinking cute.

I had a Revelation today too, I know why my house is always in such chaos and even though I feel like I am always cleaning and never getting anywhere.. Friday night I start to feel like things are finally looking organized etc.. then sat am at 6:30 I go to work, and work all day same thing on Sunday and when I come home complete disaster, So here's the Revelation.. Monday comes and I start all over again playing catch up to get back to where I was on Friday night, so annoying.

This week in my fabulous life...

So this week in my fabulous life, Things aren't getting much better but I'm still trudging through. Zar isn't getting much better with the whole potty mouth thing, or her fits, she screamed in my mother in laws face this weekend which was embarrassing to say the least, her fits are getting worse those that she use to save for home are starting to appear in public and around others. So we went back on track this week so not expecting things to get any better any time soon unfortunately. Tried chili powder in her mouth and as I anticipated it didn't work. The result was her screaming in a demon like voice that I was a bitch and stupid blah blah blah. why was she having a fit you ask? oh because I wouldn't give her ice cream because she had been saying bad words. Not only was she screaming and swearing but she was spitting everywhere. Bedtime has gotten to be quite a task as well she told me that bedtime isn't easy for her because she hears things at night and cant go to sleep. So Monday night she was screaming and crying about again ice cream I calmly laid by her rubbing her back til she fell asleep. That was very difficult.
Tuesday, oh what a day. It started off terribly which was just the beginning if only I had known I think I would have stayed in bed all day. Zarley wouldn't get up or get dressed I tried several times to put her clothes on her myself but with no success, luckily Mike got home and he held her while I dressed. Pretty sad when it takes team work to dress your 5 year old. Later that day her friend Jaxon was over playing and Canyon was over while his mom was at dance and they all decided to give each other haircuts. Oh and Xavier as well and they cut Owens sheets to shreds. What was I doing you ask? Folding laundry trying to do one of the weekly or daily chores of a mother on a rare moment where someone isnt in my face whining and crying for something, thinking the kids were playing nicely. I asked them what they were doing and they said nothing. Stupid me I believed them. Xavier has been horrible lately he just wants me to hold him all the time, him and his little blanky. So since he wasn't screaming and holding onto me like a little monkey sounds and all, I thought I would get something done, Big Big mistake. Canyon got the worst of it, his hair all had to be chopped off and he now has a super short haircut, and Jaxon has a big chunk out of his bangs, looks great. Owen has almost a bald spot to fix it the only thing I think that would work is a buzz, not going to happen. Zarley just has a lot of uneven parts in the back still debating a stacked bob to fix hers. Xavier well his is all uneven to. Great mom right. The rest of the night was all right until bedtime I laid down by Zarley again and I think I fell asleep first.
Wednesday still struggling on how to handle the swearing and fit throwing, no consequence seems to phase her, I've tried throwing away toys when she says bad words, she just goes and gets a barbie herself and throws it away, tried giving her jobs to do, she doesn't care, tried the chili powder, resulted in worse swearing and spitting. I'm at a loss right now and starting to feel like throwing in the towel.. I don't know what is going on with her and having a hard time figuring it out. I asked her today what would help her be nicer and not say bad words. she said: "Not ever going to school again."
We are trying something new tonight for bedtime I gave her my I-pod and some headphones so she wouldn't hear the noises, so I guess we will see how it goes, She is still awake right now but no noise coming from her room.
So any ideas anyone? I am listening. until next time...

The Fabulous life of me cont...

This week in my fabulous life it wasn't so crazy thank goodness.
11/9 Monday, quiet day thinking oh my life is calming down, yea
11/10 Tuesday oh not so quiet, it was observation for parents at dance, wow what a treat! Zarley couldn't have been more poorly behaved. She butted in line she pulled peoples hair she interrupted, very embarrassing, Tiffany said she isn't always like that but wow what a treat. A little later we are talking about the fact that she has a Dr. appt the next day, big mistake she flipped out. Screaming and yelling in her little raspy voice, " I am not going to the Dr. ever again never never again. No one is looking at my tonsils you stupid butt@$@# I am not going" all while throwing things around. Such a treat.
11/11 wed Not much better. Cute Carlye offers to take her to backyard adventures with her, then last minute also takes Owen (thanks Carlye your the best). When I arrive to pick them up to head to the E.N.T. what to my surprise but a flip out from Zarley, it can't be she doesn't do this. (ha Ha ). So she cries all the way to the Dr. and then has to be carried into the office. Now we are seeing the doctor, she isn't flipping out but she isn't cooperating. My sweet Owen offers to have his looked at so then Zarley will let the physician asst. look, great news she needs her tonsils out. Wahoo right! a week or so of Zarley miserable can't wait. Oh gee I wonder how much this will set us back. What more good news they will take out the last tube that's been in there for 3 years while she is under, Fantastic that shouldn't add much to our bill right. Would you like cash for that? Now the actual Dr. is in a male have I mentioned she isn't really fond of males. I have to hold her for him to do the exam, life is so wonderful.. So we leave and she decide to inform us that she is not having surgery. Well this ought to be a fun few weeks before it happens she is already stressing. Now on our way home she decides she is hungry and she wants Ihop, and is having a screaming fit because we are not going. hmm shocker. Later Tiffany is paying Winter for some teaching she has done and Zarley decides that she wants some money $79.00 to be exact another fit ridiculous fit for $79.00. Where the hell did this number come from? I have no idea. Also Xavier not feeling to well and just wants me to hold him all day, that really makes for a productive day.
11-12 Mostly a quiet day at first, a few fights with friends and some evil yelling and mean talk,so unlike her. Later Xavier is crying still not feeling up to par and she tells him to be quiet unless he wants her to break his arm? Are you kidding me where does this stuff come from. She is kicking and screaming at the door because I won't let her in,don't mind its 5:00 and I'm finally taking a shower for the day, apparently I didn't clear that with the boss. Now the meltdown is because she wants ice cream for dinner and I am the worst mom ever, how dare I. Then she tells me she just want to have a bad night, why I ask her, because she just wants to. Oh OK then. We actually ended on a fairly good note. Oh to live another day, I wonder what is in store for us tomorrow?

This week in the Fabulous life of... Me

So we are dating back to the October 30th to start this week in the fabulous life of me..
10-30-09: out to dinner for my brothers birthday and get a call from Winter, sorry mom Zarley locked herself in the bathroom and cut her hair! Ahhh are you kidding me?
11-02-09: Owen and friend cover my entry way with dirt from my plant. And I do mean cover.
11-03-09: Take kids to the Dr. and Zarley yells the word "bitch " total humiliation.
11-04-09: Take Zarley to the eye doc and she is completely uncooperative and just yells out random letters and keeps yelling "no" to him. A good reading on her progress? Uh that would be a no.
11-05-09: few minor fits from Zarley and many messes from little boys, is the week turning around?
11-06-09 Zarley throws a major fit at the zoo, embarrassing? just slightly.
11-07-09 Zarley throws another fit while her dad picks her up from a friends where she slept over. Do these people know how to parent? Do they have any control over that child? The answer to that is um No. Later that evening Zarley throws another fit while getting dropped off at her cousins house to be babysat. "hey can you do me this huge favor by babysitting oh and by the way my child will throw a huge fit when I leave have fun and thanks." So sorry Danielle and Nat.
11-08-09: Get a call at work from Winter "mom zarley is throwing things at us, cars and other things, and yelling swear words at us, what am I suppose to do" ahh what do I do with her? Oh I call and ask my sister to take her for the day so that no one gets hurt. Reward for her? maybe? sanity for everyone else.
Finally got our car into the repair shop and it will just cost $750.00 to fix. And this concludes the fabulous life of me.. Stay tuned for more in the Fabulous life of me.

Complete humilation, with yourself to blame.

So I was completely and totally humiliated and unfortunately I probably have only myself well and Mike to blame. We went to the Dr. office to check Owens tonsils to see if he should see a E.N.T. or not bla bla right, well let me mention that Zarley has been in full Pia mode for about 3 weeks now. And just this morning before the Dr. I made a new rule certain words said in our house will result in a job due to the potty mouths we have had as of late, Zar being the worst. OK so back to the Dr. we are sitting in the room waiting on the Dr. when Owen decides to go full UFC on Xavier and wrestle him to the ground resulting in a ear piercing shriek from xman and oh yea a bloody nose. So I'm bribing the kids with a trip to the gas station for a treat if they are good thinking this is going to work right? No, So the bloody nose is under control the Dr. comes in and we are actually going through the visit pretty well, when Zarley decides to scream out "bitch". That's right my adorable little girl is swearing in the Dr. office I thought I was going to die. So I tell her she has a job to do and the Dr tries to explain to her that that word is not nice and hurts peoples feelings. Just when you think its over the worst visit ever I break the news to them sorry no gas station for you guys, and this results in full melt down screaming from Owen. I'm starting to wonder why I ever venture out in public with my children.
So who is to blame probably me and my potty mouth and Mike and his. Now there is karma biting me right in the butt! right?